I am curious and want to see how other did this. How did you all tell your spouse once you found out you were pregnant? Did you take the test together??
I shook him awake in the middle of the night, shoved a digital in his face and asked him to read it to be sure I hadn't misread. He rolled his eyes, told me "Duh, of course it worked" (all of our FETs with good quality embryos have worked) and went back to sleep while I had a panic attack because in my mind pregnancy always ended in miscarriage and I didn't want to go through another loss.
I might have bothered with cute if we had gotten pregnant in the first year. After 4 years, 6 IVF transfers, and two traumatic losses- there was no cute left.
Friends for 17 years. Married 10. TTC since Jan 2009.
2012: Lost "Peanut" at 17weeks to PTL/IC.
2013: IVF#3/FET#4 Elisabeth CJ born April 30, 2014 Cerclage, P17, and 3 months of bed rest brought us our Rainbow.
I called my husband crying and told him while he was at work. I did that twice. The first time was a few months ago. I was crying because the thought to child birth kind of scares me. Unfortunately, I had a miscarriage a month or so later. Then yesterday I poas and there was the faintest pink line and I call him crying again but this time it was because im terrified that I'll have another miscarriage.... praying that this time I carry and give birth to a healthy baby!!
First time I thought I saw a line and so I took a digi. I was waiting for it when my husband knocked and said he had to use the bathroom. I put the test in a spot I would never look on the shelf above the toliet. Of course that is exactly where my dh was looking. He came out and said, "That thing says we're pregnant!" So really he got to tell me.
The second time I thought I was pg but we were away at a cousin's wedding. We bought the tests together but then he went to see his brother. I took the test and just left it on the sink. He came back to the room and I told him to go get ready in the bathroom.
The third time I took a test thought it was negative and threw it away. I was upset so I fished it out of the garbage later to look again and I saw a faint line. Of course it was outside the time limit so I waited until that afternoon, took another and it was positive. I wrote on the mirror: Are you sure you want to do this again?
My husband was at work when I took the test so I had a little time to think of something to do. I went and got a book on fatherhood (which... Here we are 4 weeks from the due date and he hasn't read any of it!) and I put it in a gift box with a digital test. I told him I had a surprise for him when he got home! So he walked in the door and was so excited to see the box. He opened it and initially didn't see the test, just the book. He silently stared at it for about 45 seconds and then looked at me and said "I don't get it". Haha! I just looked at him like he was nuts. Then he moved the tissue paper around and saw the test. He got really excited and then really quiet. For the rest of the night, I think he was in a little state of shock. He didn't say anything except "goodnight, I love you" until the next day. Then he started to get very happy about it. Now, so close to the due date he's so excited he doesn't seem to know what to do with himself :-)
I had bought a onsie from the university we both went too when we first started TTC (Oct 2012). I had hidden it away in my drawer and he didn't know. I took one in the morning before work, it was positive so I went in to our bedroom with the positive test, held up the onsie and said "It doesn't fit now, but it should in September" and proceed to burst into tears. We were so happy to have success after our 2nd IUI.
I had DD pick out any card she wanted to give to DH. She picked out a happy birthday 2 year old card because it had a picture of ice cream, ha ha. Anyway, we met up with him for dinner after we got off work and she gave him the card. Inside I wrote (from her) that she wanted to give him and card just because she loved him and then had and arrow to read the back and it said something like, I also wanted to tell you I'm going to be a big sister in May.
We have four animals, our youngest is a big fat cat named Todd. I got a 24 month onesie (He looks hilarious in it) and wrote "I'm going to be a big brother October 2014" on it. DH came home and I told him while I was at the grocery store I bought Todd a new shirt. He went out to look at it and then looked at me with huge eyes and said "You're PREGNANT?! Are you serious? Honey are you serious?!" Then gave me a huge hug with tears in his eyes. It was a pretty special moment.
Well, with both pregnancies, we found out while seeing the dr for other reasons. So we found out both times together. We had no idea we were expecting either time!
I was planilha to wait to say online after the US, but this morning (the morning after i figure out) we hugged me and said "you are so warm, are you with fever?" And i answered "no, and i bope i stay that warm for the following 9 months" and he gave the most incredible smile in the World (i will Never forget)
I POAS and saw the faint line (dollar store test) - immediately ran out of the bathroom to my DH and said asked if he saw what I did. His comment - "are you sure - it's really faint".
He was skeptical until 3 or 4 days later when I took a FRER and got a bright pink line almost instantly. I got back in bed and told him we were having a baby and he was SO thrilled. And (TMI) proceeded to do the very thing that got us into this situation in the first place, LOL.
No cute story here! We were together. He was laying in bed and I was brushing my teeth after I peed. He was suppose to tell me when three minutes was up but I stood there staring at it. I watched both lines come up, and I ask him if it's time. He says yes and I walk out of the bathroom and he goes, "so?" And I go, "guess." He says, " not pregnant." And I said "no, I am." We were then awake all night long haha. We were a little shell shocked!
We've been infertile for 5.5, stopping ttc three years ago when we adopted DD. Never thought it would happen for me, so when I started having symptoms, my mind went crazy. I really took a test to prove to myself that what I was feeling were not pregnancy symptoms. When it turned positive, I went to the bedroom with the test and instructions behind my back, pulled them out and sheepishly said "I think I'm pregnant?"
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I had bought a onsie that said 'official jelly bean' and a mug that said 'jelly bean's daddy' (which has to do with our last name, so it's even cuter) and had that for when I found out. Of course I ruined that by walking out of the bathroom and asking him to come in the kitchen and look at something. He didn't see the line at first because it was faint, and jokingly said he'd go pack his bags and started to walk away. I told him to get back here, and look again. He did - but still didn't believe it because the line wasn't as dark as the control. It took a while to convince him that a line is a line. Then I gave him the present and a card, at which time he cried. It wasn't what I had planned, but it was still sweet
I tested while DH was at work and I couldn't believe it when it turned positive since we had just miscarried the month before. I put a big bow on our future nursery door with a tag that said "Under Construction - Coming October 2014".
I kept having these sharp pains in my uterus and, being dramatic, kept telling my fiancé that I thought I had uterine cancer. Finally, he was like "you're probably just pregnant." So I took a test to prove him wrong so we could move on to finding the real cause of my ailment, only when I looked at the stick, it was positive. So yeah, he found out when I looked at the stick and said, "oh fuck."
Can't wait to tell the kiddo that story.
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I took the test 8am Christmas Eve morning. My husband had to work that day, and then we had family get togethers as soon as he got off work. I wrapped up 2 positive tests, and gave them to him once we finally had privacy that night, telling him it was an early Christmas present. The worst was having the secret by myself for 14 hours and having to act normal at family gatherings.
It was almost 9pm and all I wanted was some guacamole and nachos so DH ran out to get some. When he came home he was so proud of himself for being able to get me my snack even though the restaurant had just closed as he was about to enter. He said he really needed the guac because his pregnant wife had an unquenchable craving and he did not want to go home empty handed. Little did he know I had taken a test earlier that day but never brought it up because we were so enmeshed in errands and helping family that there just wasn't a good time to bring it up. As we were sitting on the bed watching tv and stuffing our faces I just looked at him and smiled. I told him he wasn't lying about the reason for needing the guacamole and nachos. It took him a few seconds to process the information but when he did we were both laughing and smiling. It was not the perfect cut way to tell him but I didn't think I could go another day without telling him.
Now we are planning just the perfect way to tell our parents. Maybe a baby themed dinner.
Let me preface this by saying it's our 3rd and my DH has a very dry sense of humor. I woke him up at 7am to show him the line and he said, "Congratulations, who's the father?". He then rolled back over to go back to sleep. Men.
I had three dreams about boys in a row and told them about them each time. The first time because I dreamed about triplets and was like OH GOD. NO. NOOOO. The second time because the baby was the cutest mixture of my brother and husband. The third time because it was like, "Okay, this is weird. I dreamed about a kid again.."
After work, I came home with groceries and made a really random dish that we never eat because he doesn't like asian food. I had the weirdest craving for sweet potatos. He walked out after dinner/dishes to get "cigarettes" and came home with a pregnancy test. Woke up and took it. O_O "Babe... it came out positive." He scooped me up, kissed me, and was like, "We're going to have a babyyyyy!" Then we made some pretty awesome love.
Admittedily, I'm more terrified than excited, but his excitement is pushing me in the right direction. ">
I was away on an archeo excavation in Europe and during my first week away, missed my period and took a test one night after work. My fiancé was still at work when I got my bfp so I sent him a pic saying "we miss you." He didn't quite get it for a few minutes. Lol.
I got an etremely faint questionable "could it be the lighting" line on a wondfo on both 9 and 10dpo. On 10dpo I went in to the bedroom super early and asked if he could see a line. He said yes "does that mean yours pregnant?" I told him, yes. but the lack of excitement waS there. We went to the gym.. picked up the first response-took it when I got home. he took the dog outside to go to the bathroom by the time he came back in I ran out of the bathroom screaming "I'm pregnant!"
Both times were via text - very special, I know. But I get home at 5pm and he doesn't get home until 8pm so there was no way I could wait three hours to tell him. I sent him photos of the tests.
We had been suspicious already but I wasn't sure if I skipped in Jan or just forgot although he was pretty sure. So, I wated until he got home Saturday night to take it together. I poas and left it a couple of minutes. We both went to look and I thought the line was faint, he thought it was very clear. We just hugged, kissed, and teared up a bit. Still hard to believe.
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Put a tshirt over DS's PJs that said, "best big brother" when MH went downstairs to get him breakfast. He came upstairs and kept saying Really? Really?
at lunch i went to CVS.. bought tampons and a test (thinking i would need ONE of the two-- i am sure the older lady in the middle of the aisle was laughing at me). Then I made myself wait til after work (and of course ended up having to stay an extra hour and half at work).. did the test (PREGNANT!!) I was sooo excited and was "patiently" waiting for bf to get home.. and waited..and waited... then he came home and was on the phone with his mom! arrgghhhh!! After 20 minutes finally asked him to call her back and then just showed him (yup big build up for that) the stick. And then spent the next hour and half trying to help him map out "when" it happened (i showed him the date) and what we did that day (he is silly but sweet).
I went in the bathroom and took the test. My husband was on the couch watching tv and had no clue I was taking one. I came out and said "do you know how to read these thermometers?" He looked at me like I was an idiot with the " what are you talking about?" face. Took the test out of my hand and then stood there in shock for a min.
This baby was a surprise. I was cleaning out my bathroom cupboards, found an old unused test and peed on it because I was going to toss it out anyway and why the hell not. It turned positive immediately and I ran into the bedroom, woke h up, and said"what the FUCK is this" while shaking it maniacally in his face. I think droplets of pee went all over him and the bed. Ah, romance.
I bought books on amazon after he did, Dude your going to be a Dad and My boys can swim. Since he is in the military an away, we skyped (I videotaped) asking him when the book delivery was getting there. His face was priceless, he said whattttttttt are you serious?!?!
I snuck and took a bunch of tests while DH was running errands. I sent him a text with the results that said "uuuuummmmmmm........"
He called back and I was all giddy but he didn't get the text yet. He was calling about dog food. I kept dropping hints but he kept talking about the damn dog food. I just blurted out DAMNIT I'M PREGNANT.
Dead silence. Followed by giggles that made me think that a 10 year old girl had picked up the phone.
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Friends for 17 years. Married 10. TTC since Jan 2009.
2013: IVF#3/FET#4 Elisabeth CJ born April 30, 2014
Cerclage, P17, and 3 months of bed rest brought us our Rainbow.
Dum spiro, spero.
The second time I thought I was pg but we were away at a cousin's wedding. We bought the tests together but then he went to see his brother. I took the test and just left it on the sink. He came back to the room and I told him to go get ready in the bathroom.
The third time I took a test thought it was negative and threw it away. I was upset so I fished it out of the garbage later to look again and I saw a faint line. Of course it was outside the time limit so I waited until that afternoon, took another and it was positive. I wrote on the mirror: Are you sure you want to do this again?
For the rest of the night, I think he was in a little state of shock. He didn't say anything except "goodnight, I love you" until the next day. Then he started to get very happy about it. Now, so close to the due date he's so excited he doesn't seem to know what to do with himself :-)
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Can't wait to tell the kiddo that story.
I set out two onesies, one for each of our favorite football teams and put the positive test on top. His jaw dropped when he saw it lol.
I had three dreams about boys in a row and told them about them each time. The first time because I dreamed about triplets and was like OH GOD. NO. NOOOO. The second time because the baby was the cutest mixture of my brother and husband. The third time because it was like, "Okay, this is weird. I dreamed about a kid again.."
After work, I came home with groceries and made a really random dish that we never eat because he doesn't like asian food. I had the weirdest craving for sweet potatos. He walked out after dinner/dishes to get "cigarettes" and came home with a pregnancy test. Woke up and took it. O_O "Babe... it came out positive." He scooped me up, kissed me, and was like, "We're going to have a babyyyyy!" Then we made some pretty awesome love.
Admittedily, I'm more terrified than excited, but his excitement is pushing me in the right direction. ">
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I went into the bedroom, turned on the light and said, "Hey, there are two lines, get out of bed, we need to fucking talk."
Super romantic we are.
I ran out of the bathroom and screamed, "I'M EFFING PREGNANT!"
Not the sweet intimate moment all dream of, but there it is.
I loved reading these!
We had been suspicious already but I wasn't sure if I skipped in Jan or just forgot although he was pretty sure. So, I wated until he got home Saturday night to take it together. I poas and left it a couple of minutes. We both went to look and I thought the line was faint, he thought it was very clear. We just hugged, kissed, and teared up a bit. Still hard to believe.
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